Now I'm an adult and I've flown the coop, it seems like my mother sees me more as a confidant. Which is usually fine, it's been great knowing her more. But mum is going through a hard time right now. She's just had to put gran into a home and is trying to sell her unit and furniture. Selling the unit due to the village fees will end up only giving gran a pittance to live on. Plus she has dementia. And the furniture mum is trying to sell to earn gran some cash is only getting responses from scammers, and mum doesn't know how to respond/can't identify them. Yesterday we found out that both my brother and sister failed their courses. My sister failed over a year ago and only found out when she was rejected from graduation. My brother has failed repeatedly and might get kicked out. Both are living home and can barely afford to keep their cars running without mum and dad's help. I just... I don't know how to help her. Her problems have ignited my anxiety, which flares regularly. I wish my siblings would get their acts together. Apparently dad just tells at mum when she asks for help. I've spent half the afternoon trying to figure out my sisters Uni, and moving on to my brothers because no one knows what to do. In short aaaaarrrrrrgggggggghhh. How have I turned into the fixer??? How do I deal with parental issues without turning into a wreck??