Post Incubation Hens

Discussion in 'Wellness' started by Afishwish, Nov 14, 2017.

  1. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    I wasn’t sure where to put this, so I figured I’d make a thread for postpartum chickens. Undignified ailments, body image, etc.

    I’m back to my pre-baby weight, but I still feel a little bummed by the way things sit. My belly has the deflated inner tube going on, and my boobs aren’t as perky as they were. I realize it’s silly and shallow, it’s amazing my body made a human, I’m lucky to have my little squish, etc., but my body confidence (which I didn’t have a ton of pre-baby) has definitely taken a hit.
  2. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    I’m getting a breast lift for my 40th. My tits were never fab (just big) but they are not at all cute now. Somehow that bothers me even more than my gnarly scar and gross belly flab that won’t go away.
  3. ClamJam

    ClamJam Chicken

    I'm pretty wrecked right now after babby #2. I didn't lose all of the weight I gained with #1 so....ugh. I've dropped 32lbs since delivery and have another....45lbs to get to my ideal weight. First time around, my bewbs got so big that I had stretch marks on them and it was super depressing. Fortunately, those stretch marks faded. Now I have stretch marks on my freaking thighs and calves and I hope those will fade with time also. I've got a lot of work to do to get to a place where I won't feel self-conscious about my appearance and it makes me a lot sad sometimes.
  4. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    @CoolWife everyone I know who’s gotten a lift and/or reduction has been really happy with their decision.

    @ClamJam 32 pounds is nothing to sneeze at!
  5. Pickles

    Pickles Chicken

    I got stretch marks on my boobs (on the sides) but they seem to have faded. PP is no joke.
    I’m not holding onto weight at all, actually really struggling to keep it on which feels just as hopeless as wanting to lose a few pounds :no:

    My boobs have pretty much just lost all volume in the top. But honestly the less I breastfeed the smaller they’re getting and i couldn’t be more thrilled. Breastfeeding has made me hate my boobs. But a year of your life revolving around your tits will do that.
    Last edited: Nov 15, 2017
  6. ClamJam

    ClamJam Chicken

    @Pickles I feel you on the boob hate. I used to like my perky little boobs and now...yeah. nursing again means they are full, but left produces much more than the right and there is at least a cup size difference between them. Lopsided headlights do not a sexy feeling make.
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  7. DaleBrennan

    DaleBrennan Chicken

    Good idea for a thread, @Afishwish! Thanks for starting it.

    I am heavier than I feel, if that makes sense. I (physically) feel like my pre-baby weight, but then I see myself in a photo or a mirror, or try on pre-baby jeans and it's depressing AF. I have the c-section "shelf" and my hips (I guess) are wider than they were before.

    I've been doing water aerobics 2x week and yoga 1x week at our local Y and it's been boosting my self-esteem a lot though. The fact that they have childcare is the only reason I'm able to do it.
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  8. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    I'm only technically a few pounds away from pre-pregnancy weight, but the IVF hormones made me gain before I got knocked up. I'd be happy being down another 5-7 pounds at least. I think my hips are wider too, and I have the c-section shelf.

    I'm getting through the Couch to 10K program, and running is often the easiest exercise to do since there is no time to get to/from a run, like there is for the gym or a class. Once C's wake-up schedule is a little more predictable, I think I can go back to the gym a few days a week, since we'd be able to depend on him sleeping through my workout. He sometimes does, and sometimes doesn't right now.
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  9. whatchyagonnado

    whatchyagonnado Chicken

    @DaleBrennan I’m hoping this spring I can take advantage of the Y by us

    Yea at 10 weeks pp my uterus is still not all the way back down. My doctor said at 6 weeks it was moving slowly, but damn.
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  10. ClamJam

    ClamJam Chicken

    Man mentally I am ready to do so much more than my body is ready for. It is hard to pace myself and not badly overdo it. Still have to wait a few more weeks to be cleared for exercise but I'm not sure I'll even be ready to move beyond walking at that point.
  11. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    Every body is so different. I’m in terrible shape but actually healed from my section fairly quickly and was up and around pretty much right away. Neighbor is in way better shape and had to take it sooo slow. We took super short walks just down the block and back. But it pays off if you listen to your body.
  12. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    I have my 6 week postpartum appt today and I'm weirdly nervous. At least I'm seeing my favorite midwife, she always makes me feel like a rockstar.
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  13. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    I'm still having quite a bit of tailbone area pain. Google tells me very normal after birth but it's been over 6 weeks and everything else is good. Mostly when I sit down and get up and way worse when I sit for a while. Anything I can do or just wait it out? Google freaked me out because some said it never went away.
  14. Pickles

    Pickles Chicken

    Tailbones take forever to heal. I bruised mine once and it took 4-6 months to feel normal again. With that said, some women fracture their tailbone’s in childbirth (sounds like yours is bruised) so if the pain gets worse I’d get it looked at.
  15. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    Thanks. I forgot to mention it at my postpartum visit the other day. I messaged my provider through the online portal but she hasn't gotten back yet.

    Hopefully it ends up healing within a couple months then. I think it's probably just bruised too. It's not super significant but it is annoying and fairly painful sometimes.
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  16. ClamJam

    ClamJam Chicken

    Having similar tailbone pain and I didn't even labor all that much! It makes long car trips super painful. My OB told me that although a significant portion of healing occurs in the first few months, it takes a woman's body almost a year to fully heal from pregnancy and delivery. I think I might get a donut to sit on for long car trips :oops:.
  17. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    Yeah I'm still feeling super puny about it.
  18. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    To continue I think it was @pinacolada 's rant about nursing clothes, a big what-the-fuck again. Why is it that all the "nursing-friendly" clothes are built for pregnant, not postpartum, bodies? WHY? This makes NO SENSE. Also if you do happen to find something that looks functional and cute, the reviews are all "So flattering on the bump! Can't wait for my little one to get here so I can use it!" Like, you're prob not nursing if you're pregnant, and why on earth are you reviewing "Nursing-friendly" clothes when your baby isn't born yet? Also I am actually feeling pretty okay about my body and I still don't want to wear something that draws attention to my midsection. Have a feeling that would make me feel worse. NOT HELPFUL.

    I know most people just wear regular clothes and figure it out, so whatever. But it would be nice if we could actually have nice-looking, nursing friendly clothes.
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  19. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    I so agree.
  20. nym711

    nym711 THIS IS MY LIFE NOW

    The dress I'm wearing today is a maternity/nursing dress. Can confirm, it is very flattering on the bump.
  21. pinacolada

    pinacolada Chicken

    @scotchbutter YES! It's all the worst.

    I never ended up buying any actual nursing tops. I bought nursing bras, and these. I know a lot of people do the two shirt method with regular shirts, but I liked having tanks that clip right into my bra.
  22. fantasynerd

    fantasynerd Extra Extra

    Interesting. I wonder if tube tops might be a good option for nursing friendly layering.

    (Don't mind me, just thinking about what I might wear 18+ months from now...)
  23. Pickles

    Pickles Chicken

    Anyone have their period come back for like 3-4 months then have it go away again?

    I’m 2.5wks late not sure what the hell is going on lol
  24. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken


    I know this joke ceases to be funny about 10 years ago, but, you're sure you aren't pregnant, right?

    But 3-4 months isn't that long, it might just not be super regular yet. Mine definitely didn't go from 0 to every 27 days right away.
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  25. Pickles

    Pickles Chicken

    Definitely not pregnant due to the whole sterile husband thing.

    Yeah, maybe! It was weird though because I got all bloated and crampy right around when it was supposed to show up then, nothing. My weight is considerably lower than it usually is so maybe that’s playing into it too. But anytime now Aunt Flo!