Sick chicks

Discussion in 'Wellness' started by CoolWife, Mar 4, 2020.

  1. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    This is different than the real but normal daily problems of motherhood, so I’m leaving that space downer-free.

    C2 is really sick. He seems to have Necrotizing Enterocolitis. It all went south right after I left yesterday evening. I did skin to skin with him for a while and everything was pretty ok. After that he kept needing more and more respiratory support, ending in him being intubated and back on a ventilator, which they initially had trouble with because he was spitting up all the undigested milk in his stomach (about 3 hours’ worth of feeds). His belly was really distended and X-ray conformed the NEC, which they are repeating every 8 hours to watch for bowel perforations. So far no sign of that but peds surgery team is also following him closely.
    He got a (4th now) blood transfusion overnight and is getting plasma right now. There’s a lot more to it but basically his treatment is bowel rest (IV nutrition), tons of strong antibiotics, and supportive care. Still waiting for cultures to know if anything else is infected.
    He seems to be comfortable now, peeking at me occasionally. But he is still only 2lb5oz. I’m not doing well. Yesterday was already a shitty day, crying to my OB about my mental state. Now this, which may or may not have long term implications and probably definitely means he’ll be here long past when I have to go back to work.
  2. shakespeer

    shakespeer Basic Pirate Lesbian Aesthete

    I am so, so sorry this is happening to you and your family. That is a tremendous amount to deal with and must feel so overwhelming and unfair. Wishing you all better days ahead very soon.
  3. megatron

    megatron Wordsmith Staff Member

    Oh CW, I am so so sorry to hear things are not going well for you both. I don’t know what to say other than please take care of yourself. He’s with a great care team, but you need to take care of yourself so you can be there for C2. Please text me or FaceTime if you need anything, even to vent or whatever. So much love to you and sweet C2. He’s a fighter and we are all rooting for him. <3
  4. nym711

    nym711 THIS IS MY LIFE NOW

    Send you all the positive thoughts and love <3 We are all rooting for him.
  5. Kimmers

    Kimmers Chicken

    I’m so sorry. That’s so much to deal with and anyone would be struggling. Really hoping that C2 improves ASAP and that you’re getting the support you need.
  6. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    I’m so sorry. That’s so much. We’re all in your corner.
  7. A. Ham

    A. Ham Chicken

    <3 to you and your family. What a difficult time this is for you.
  8. Tumnus

    Tumnus Chicken

    I'm so sorry CW, I can't imagine how difficult this must be for all of you guys. Sending hugs <3.
  9. Zoomzoom

    Zoomzoom Old Curmudgeon

    I'm so sorry CW. So many hugs and well wishes for C2 and you. <3
  10. Zombie Llama

    Zombie Llama Ain't no corn bitch

    CW, I am so sorry. Holding you, your little fighter, D, and C1 in my heart. <3
  11. Rico Suave

    Rico Suave Chicken

    I’m rooting hard for C2 and sending you all the love and support. We’re all here for you. <3<3
  12. deet

    deet Chicken

    When do you go back to work? If there is anything I can do, please let me know. I am really saddened to hear this.
  13. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    <3 thanks guys. I think I will probably go see my therapist this evening. She cancelled on me last week.
    I’m not sure yet @deet. Getting stuff from the OB to send in for STD hasn’t been a high priority. But I get 8 weeks STD and 12 weeks FMLA (concurrent). So if I take it continuous I go back the week of April 20, if I save the FMLA for when he’s home and go back after 8 it’s the week of March 26 (I think). Since I was off a week before he was born it’s just 3 weeks left. My OB is willing to write whatever I need, I “certainly deserve as much time as possible.” So I need to talk to HR, who is never any help so I’m putting it off.
  14. Tumnus

    Tumnus Chicken

    Does your employer have one of those programs where people can "donate" their sick time or PTO to you so you can extend your FMLA?
  15. Comet

    Comet Instigator

    Oh CW, so much love to you. I am sorry that you are dealing with this and I'm hoping for the best possible outcome for all of you.
  16. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    @Tumnus Yes, but I think I have to exhaust mine first, and I’m going to need to take him to a million appointments the rest of the year. I’ll ask though. My colleagues are nothing if not generous, when one of our guys was caring for his (now late) wife we donated enough time for him to stay with her full time for a couple months.
  17. ClamJam

    ClamJam Chicken

    CW, I am so sorry that C2's health isn't better right now. Sending so many well wishes your way. I hope your therapist has the time to see you. You're dealing with so much.
  18. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    Oh CW, I just want to give you a hug. I'm so sorry my friend. I hope C2 improves soon <3
  19. fantasynerd

    fantasynerd Extra Extra

    I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I’m sending all of the vibes to C2, you, C1, and D. And I hope you do see your therapist tonight and that that helps too <3
  20. Imabug1002

    Imabug1002 Chick pee

    I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this CW. All the love to you and your family.
  21. Chevere

    Chevere Chicken

    Hugs to all of you @CoolWife, hope things get better soon for C2
  22. Apples&Oranges

    Apples&Oranges Chicken

    Im so sorry CW :sad: that's a lot and it's not fair. Praying for the best possible outcome for him, and that you are able to get extra time at home. <3<3<3<3 if there is absolutely anything at all that I could be of even minimal assistance for, please, please reach out.
  23. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    Love to you and the family, CW. I hope C2 starts to improve very soon and HR is helpful in getting more time off work.
  24. RoryGilmore

    RoryGilmore Chicken

    I hope C2 gets better soon, CW. Don’t feel bad about crying. It’s okay to cry and to admit this is all too much. I wish I had better advice than “make sure to rest” since I know it’s... impossible in a situation like this.

    Hugs and support.
  25. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    Of course you’re not doing well; nobody would be. It’s okay to not be okay when dealing with something like this. Much love to you and the fam. We’re all rooting for C2.